Sometimes life just feels a little, well, blah. With all of the adult-ing, expectations, and things that consistently find their way to the ‘to-do’ list, I find it difficult to let go and welcome what I intuitively know brings me joy.
Joy is not an easy road for me. It never has been. I have long been the person who found ‘happiness’ in outward objects such as food, clothes, and pretty spaces. And while there is nothing wrong with enjoying the tactile things that life has to offer, I believe that true happiness is an inside job.
On my own journey I’ve discovered a lot about where happiness does not stem from. Happiness doesn't come from seeing the end of an entire pint of ice cream, or blaming your problems on others, or a closet full of pretty clothes. Happiness does not come from a place of, “When I have this, I’ll finally feel happy.”
And I’ll repeat, I’m no guru when it comes to happiness. I might have figured out how not to emotionally eat, or how to make a great sauce, or how to improve my self-care habits. But this happiness thing, I'll be the first to say, it can be tough sometimes.
While I think its important to connect with each other and show our great talents and skills, I think its equally as important to express our vulnerabilities. You may feel like you just aren’t measuring up as a parent, or in business, or you aren’t doing this or that well enough. You may feel like taking pretty photos, organization, or cooking isn't your thing but maybe should be. But we all have our things we are working on. For me, its letting go and allowing joy to take the lead. To be less serious and more spontaneous and free spirited and content with things as they are. To let go of perfect and settle into the messy joy that is life.
So this week I wanted to encourage you to express yourself and a vulnerability. To be authentic and real. None of us are perfect. And in connecting with each other and saying, “Hey, I have things I’m working on too,” it allows us to connect a bit deeper and maybe even heal parts of ourselves. To show up as we are, our imperfections in tow, and to look at one another and say, “Hey, I have those too.”
So, what is something you are working on in your life? You can take a moment to chat with a friend about it, write in the comments below, or take some pen to paper. Whatever it is, allow yourself to stand in your shortcomings, accept the totality of who you are, and take a moment to be vulnerable and connect a little deeper.