When we chat about self-care, I often go the route of ease and being gentle with ourselves. I mean, life can be tough and I love for this space to feel more like a warm hug than a kick in the butt. I think far too many of us ladies can be so hard on ourselves. Many of feel as though we aren't good enough, we feel pressured to be perfect, and we lay the guilt on thick. So, I love to remind myself and you, that gentle is often the way.
In the midst of moving homes, I kept being gentle and gentle and more gentle with myself. And while I didn't need a harsh critic on my side, what I did need was to self-care in ways that didn't come so easy.
I needed to run, and get outside, and move my body. I needed to exercise and wake my body up out of feeling depressed. (Yes, when I move, I feel exhilarated and then depressed) I was listening to this podcast/motivational interview (so good!), and it got me thinking about my non-negotiables.
I don't have many. I often go with ease when it is an option. And often times that is my medicine. Ease, gentleness, and softness. But others times, I need to hold myself accountable, give myself a firm nudge, and show up even when I don't feel like it.
This is why I have been making exercise a non-negotiable for myself once again. I have felt estranged from exercise for so long mostly because of the fear it instilled in me from my competitive volleyball days in high school and college. Think running until you faint or throw up. Um, yeah, no thank you. I shy away from pushing myself too hard, I think mostly in part to those days as an athlete.
But now, I am moving towards being gentle with myself AND holding myself accountable so that I can reach my wellness potential. To feel grounded, balanced, and at peace in my body.
So I am starting small, with morning walks (I love walks outdoors!) with my little guy in tow, 5 times a week. If its raining, I either get out there in the rain and dampness or I opt to move at a class or in our home.
No if, ands, or butts.
And I do believe strongly that the small and consistent habits we build for ourselves now, will compile into huge shifts and results. If you commit and believe and set good intentions, well, I think our habits can work magic.
Have you ever heard of decision fatigue? Well, its a concept that says if we eliminate some of our potential choices from day to day, we would free up a ton of mental and physical energy. And in some areas of my life, I am totally on board. Hence, my non-negotiables.
And I am curious about you! What are some areas you believe would help you feel stronger and more resilient if done on the regular? What non-negotiable, if implemented, do you believe will support you to thrive?
In other self-care news, I am hosting a delightful women's dinner and intention setting workshop in June, just around the summer solstice. Creating space to dream, set intentions, connect with other women, and nourish our bodies... well sometimes we need a little help cultivating the space to feel supported and thrive. I so hope you will join us! For more information and to register, go here!