You know the story. Its the most wonderful time of the year, until you come down with the flu, are skating through crowds on Christmas Eve Eve in panic for last minute gifts, gain 10 pounds, feel stressed, oh and can’t wait until the first of the year to make changes for the New Year.
The New Year isn’t the time to start implementing change; now is the time. Now is the time so you can enjoy the magic of the holidays, and I mean actually enjoy it. Not just the idea of the holiday season, but the present moments. And in order to actually enjoy the experiences in your life, you need to amp up your intentionality. You get to create the life you want to live ( and it can be incredible ), so take some time to be intentional and manifest what you want into reality.
- Figure out what you want. And no, Im not talking Christmas gifts. I am asking you to get clear about what type of December you want. How it will look and feel. Do you want to have a calm, cozy, and mellow holiday with a couple of festivities scheduled here and there on your calendar? Do you want to go from party to party and throw a huge, fun holiday soiree looking and feeling great? Do you want to feel grounded calm and cozy? You need to figure out what you want before you can be intentional and create the holiday season you want to experience. So, this is what I am suggesting: When you have about 15 minutes or rather prioritize 15 minutes (with no interruptions, no phone calls, no phone notifications, no honey dos, or kids) sit down with your journal or piece of paper and answer these questions:
1. In detail what do I want my holiday to look and feel like? What activities do I want to partake in and how do I want them to make me feel? What values are important to me? How do I want to feel in my body during the holidays?
2. Now review. Does what you want to experience and how want to feel jive together? For example: If you want to go to a holiday party each day of every weekend but you want to feel peace, quiet, and space; you may want to change up your holiday calendar and think of saying no to some invites to support how you want to feel this season.
3. List the 3 most important things that you want to experience this month and 3 things you can let go of to make room for more space and joy.
- See roadblocks as opportunities. The holidays bring up a lot of emotion for people. Whether it be nostalgia from childhood, unpleasant feelings from years past, stress from family members, or longing of what you wish the holidays would look and feel like…there is no doubt that the holidays are emotionally loaded. When a difficult emotion comes up take it as an opportunity to stand with yourself and truly feel, honor, and love yourself and what you are feeling. Think about this for a second. What do many people do when they experience anger, fear, or discomfort? They lash out, act in ways they aren’t proud of, or take their emotions out on someone else. Instead of trying to expel your negative experience on someone or something else, give yourself a big flipping hug and sit with that emotion. Pour yourself some tea and love on you. Tell yourself it will all be ok (because it will be) and then sit with those emotions and comfort yourself the only way you know how. Lashing out, covering up a situation with alcohol, and/or eating a plate of cookies will not solve your problems. But the more we sit with the less than perfect side of ourselves, the deeper of a connection we build within and the deeper our self worth becomes. I also love to repeat this prayer, “Thank you for helping me to see the opportunity in this discomfort.”
- Support Your Body. Indulging in alcohol, cookies, and pie every day is not going to support your body in feeling its best. Actually, if you overdo processed foods, sugar, bread, and alcohol and cut back on fresh food, fruits, and veggies… you will feel crummy. And when you feel crummy its pretty hard to enjoy anything, let alone the holidays. Make sure you eat wholesome foods (were talking real veg, real fruits, organic plant and animal protein, and real butter here people… not canned protein shakes) and then you can always leave room for some wine and cookies here and there. Its all about balance and finding out what your body can tolerate and what it cant. Listen carefully.
- Take Time For You. Its hard to enjoy anything if you don’t make time for yourself. In getting caught up with work, caring for others, and crossing off our to dos, we forget to take time for ourselves. When you take time to reflect and decompress, you naturally start tuning into what you need to enjoy. See my last blog post for some of my favorite meaningful and relaxing holiday activities.
- Be Grateful. We all have so much its almost silly. Take some time to reflect on all that you have and spend considerably less time focusing on all that you want for Christmas. When you focus on all you have, you will realize you are already rich and in the perfect place you are meant to be. I will share part of my gratitude list for today: ‘healthy food ; my arms, fingers, eyes, and legs ; the smell of my Christmas tree ; my husband’s grounding and supportive nature ; the love of my kids ; festive tunes ; negative experiences that help me to broaden my life tools ; our home ; tea ; flannel sheets ; washer and dryer ; candles.’ Saying thank you and experiencing gratitude for all we have is a sure fire way to enjoy what is already here.
I hope these steps help you to enjoy the holidays to the max of your capability this year. Wishing you so much love, peace, joy, and everything in between.
Happy Holidays Everyone! xo