This past month I have set my intention to be one of focus.
I, for a long while, have known in my mind that where my focus is in my life is also what my experience becomes. If my focus lies in gratitude, all that I have, creating, loving, and enjoying; well of course this is my reality and my heart is full. But on the other side, if my focus is zoomed in on how things could be different, how situations are unfair, and on my own imperfections and my life's imperfections ... well, this becomes the lens I see my life through. One of resentment and heaviness.
I will be the first one to admit, I struggle with focusing on all I have versus all I wish could be different. I have a personality that revels in the midst of improvement, in growth. So I do focus much too much at times on how things could be better. I obsess and it feels as though I am trapped in my own narrowness of what I have consciously and subconsciously deemed sub par.
But, when I actively change my focus to see what is perfect; my mind opens, I see the beauty, I experience the miracles. And that is what I want for all of us. To welcome this kind of life more. To experience all the beautiful possibilities instead of narrowing in on how your holiday could have been better or how your body isn't fit enough or any type of obsessing you may experience.
Let it go.
These are the tools that I have collected along this month's journey. Tools and inspiration to help you shift your focus so you can attract what you want and need in your life and see more of the miraculous. And if you have some of your own tools that help you, please share them in the comments below. We are all ears. Xo
- Soup. Its that time of year. Soup season. Yay. Nourish your body and hydrate your cells with your favorite soups and stews made from natural and whole ingredients. When you eat well, it is infinitely easier to be more positive and focus on what is going well in your life. Make big batches and store in the fridge and freezer for easy, stress free, yet wholesome meals. Try my favorite veggie chili, this creamy butternut squash, or this restorative chicken soup.
- My Daily Gratitude PDF. When your focus becomes one of gratitude, and you make it a practice, you open yourself up to all you have instead of mulling around what you don't or what you wish you could change. Download and print out this PDF or use a beautiful journal to list everything you are loving daily.
- Put on an uplifting podcast. If you are having difficulty quieting you mind of negative thoughts, trying putting on a podcast with a positive message. I recently listened to this conversation on how to connect with others and have meaningful conversation... and loved it.
- Stop comparing. Have you ever heard the saying 'comparison is the thief of joy?' Well, I believe it to be a very true statement. You are a unique, beautiful human, living this life the best way you know how. Does it matter how a friend or relative or celebrity is better at this or that? No. Focus on your strong points, celebrate other’s strong points as well, and work on growing where you feel called to.
- Surround yourself with positive people. This may seem like a no brainer, but do it. Energy is contagious and do your best to seek out people who inspire you with their authentic positivity. Building a community of people who support you and are positive about their own lives will help you to live in a similar way.
- Giving. I find this time of year to be overwhelmingly focused on stuff and collecting more stuff ( I fall into this trap over and over! ), but I want to more and more shift towards gifting and creating in a more intentional way. I love this idea of creating an advent calendar that focuses on serving others as well as creating meaningful experiences with family members and friends in leui of traditional gifts.
Wishing you a lovely beginning to the holiday season focusing on all the beauty you have in your life. Xo